How to Take Compliments

Rule #2 on how to present yourself professionally: Take compliments well! Part of showing confidence is to understand your value, so learn to accept well-wishes and admiration with grace.

1. Do not disagree with the compliment giver. Now is not the time to undermine yourself (not that there ever is a good time!).
2. Show gratitude for the compliment. Say thank you with a smile.
3. If you are feeling embarrassed and you somehow feel you must deflect or dilute, you can reciprocate with a compliment, but you must do this authentically.
4. For novices, practice taking compliments in a low-stakes environment, e.g., when a friend or relative compliments you.
5. For experts, if the compliment relates to skills you are developing, use it as a way to gently promote yourself (“I’m so glad you noticed; I’ve been [fill in the blank]).”